There have been times
that I have forgotten
who the hell
I was
I got distracted
sidelined
preoccupied
by life
by responsibilities
or falling in love
And of course, motherhood
All of them lovely
So lovely
just all of them pulling me away
Until
I've made little choices to pull back
In little moments
to come home
to celebrate this kind of love
there's no cake for this
no ring
no ceremony
there's no certificate to hang on the wall
or big announcement to post
except,
I suppose,
maybe this one
yet she has always been here
not just partner or parent
but a beating heart
with thoughts that run wild
lightning bolts up her skin
A soul that is soft
and a belly that is too
though, I do love that
most times
she tried to be everything that she was
supposed to be
and it was everything she was not
what a ride
The kind of ride you take
and wonder what heck just happened
But you’re smiling so it
must be good,
Even the twists and turns.
Because in the end,
it all brings me here.
I won’t forget that.
I won’t forget her.
by Sarah Nicole Landry @thebirdspapaya
There’s a lot written in the transits about Eros and Psyche and my take on that this week. You owe it to yourself to read it if you are struggling in unhealthy relationship cycles. This week I encourage you to really examine what you deserve in life and love. Why have you settled for and maybe even sought out less than that? Fear is at the root of all these things. This week, really take time to love the fuck out of yourself. Love your flaws and goofy quirks. Love your hair, your skin, your body and all its scars and flaws and abilities and what it get done for you every single day. Love your eyes and your mouth and your whole beautiful, unique face. Love your saggy, baggy parts, and your muscle-y, taut parts. Love your sense of humor, or intelligence, or kick ass skills. Love your ability to love, nurture, forgive. Love yourself in your moments of insanity, because that is human!
You deserve someone who recognizes and appreciates all those things in you.
I know it is possible because I found it, after I had been through all of the shit, people! All of it!
Get yourself some grocery store flowers and fill your room or kitchen with them. Make your house smell good. Shave your legs and change your sheets. Drink your favorite tea in silence. Condition your hair and exfoliate your feet in the shower. You are a badass Bitch/Bitchster and you are here for bigger reasons than what society has led you to believe. Open your heart and let your flag fly this week. Boldly love your fucking self!
The end. Love you.
Monday 7 February
- Pallas sextile North Node - opportunities for leadership that aligns with your ideals
Tuesday 8 February
- Mars trine Uranus - break free! Let your hair down and explore possibilities
Friday 11 February
- Mercury conjunct Pluto - deep thinking and conversations
- Mercury trine North Node - your thoughts and words have insight that can guide you to your bigger goals
- Sun trine Lilith - your edgy side can find more acceptance than usual
Saturday 12 February
- Sun sextile Eris - you can shed some layers and let your bitch flag fly
Sunday 13 February
- Eros opposite Psyche - these are not asteroids I normally cover, simply because there are zillions of asteroids and only one me and one BitchScope. Eros and Psyche have a cyclical relationship of one conjunction and 3 oppositions. In reading about psyche, so much of my own love journey came up for me. I have talked before about Twin Flames and how I feel the term is often misused. Psyche embodies some of that vibe…of loving but never being able to “Have”. Anyway I chose to highlight this this week because of its proximity to Valentine’s Day. Psyche is currently in Leo, where she deeply desires love, and ALL of it. Eros is currently in Aquarius, and is turned on by quirkiness and uniqueness. There is a dance happening, but the 2 people are dancing to different songs. (see footnotes!)
Monday 14 February
- Pluto trine North Node - your determination to reach goals, and intuitive instincts are strong
- Mercury enters Aquarius - oh Lordy. So much air. So much thinking. So much thinking about odd things, thinking outside the box, saying random stuff. Also, detachment from emotions and a strong leaning into logic, which can help us move through areas we may have been stuck in due to emotional attachment.
I am including my schedule and appointment availability for this week at the bottom of scopes. My hours and availability have been a little here and there, as I am trying to craft a life and schedule that works for me. If you want to connect, please just email me and we will discuss the how’s and what’s. Kelly@thebitchwhisperer.me
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ARIES - We’ve been talking a lot about your career lately. Let’s shift. In your life quest to be loved for your authentic self, don’t forget to actually know who your authentic self is. You tend to over value your abilities and physical presence and under value your intrinsic value as a human who is a gift by just existing. Seek out fun and joy this week, particularly with your friends and people who appreciate you. Do some personal accounting of your real value.
TAURUS - Your desire to put down roots, or deepen your roots is likely to be bumping in to your need to be seen and find an identity. Your identity is in the process of shifting, however, so you are probably feeling a little floaty and homeless. It’s temporary. Lean in to your family if you have some. If not, do some work in your physical home, either cleaning or decorating or organizing. It will feel strangely good and you might be surprised how it changes your feelings.
GEMINI - Your mind is likely to be very active this week. You are sharp, profound, coming up with all kinds of profound shit, and breaking through small barriers for yourself. Lots of learning and curiosity for you to explore this week, which can lead to things being unlocked in your deeper self and unconscious. This doesn’t really sound like great date night material, does it? If you are in a relationship or have to nurture other humans, you will need to keep your weird philosophical bender in check at times, lest your people roll their eyes at you harder than usual.
CANCER - Well you could have a potentially steamy week, Crabby. There’s lots of sensual and intimate stuff possible in your chart this week. If you are partnered, you may have different goals for the uh, interactions. You are likely to want sensuality and touch and your partner may want deep connection and vulnerability. Still sounds kinda fun to me. If you aren’t partnered, you may find some unexpected entertainment among your friends.
LEO - You should be feeling yourself pretty strongly. Which, I mean, you’re a leo so is that shocking? No. But this being in touch with yourself and what you desire is going to create a magnetism to others. Be conscious of who you let in this week (or who you sleep with.) Your public image is something to consider as well. Just be careful with your sexiness this week.
VIRGO - You are likely to feel sensitive this week, and possibly lonely on some level. You may feel dreamy and cloudy and a little lost. You could really benefit from a little disconnection (in a controlled way of course), but being such a body oriented sign, you will probably struggle. If you have substance addiction issues or escapism tendencies, red flag this week. Try a deep and soothing meditation to move in and out of your body energy as needed.
LIBRA - You’re bored and need some unexpected fun, some time with friends, and a little spice in your routine. Deep feelings and intimacy will be a present factor for you as well, and those are strange elements to incorporate together. Creativity is the order of the week. You need a fix of art, and beauty, and humanity. The deep feelings part of the equation will take care of itself after you fill your cup. Do you this week!
SCORPIO - You need to be seen this week. If you are in a relationship, go out for a nice dinner, or whatever is your couple vibe. Go where some people are (feels so strange to say that in the pandemic era!) and be among them and let yourself be seen. Show off a little If you’re single, dress up for work or school. Flaunt your sexiness. Not just because it is Valentine’s Day (bleh who cares), but because it says so in your chart!
SAGITTARIUS - You may find yourself in the role of teacher this week. This suits you well, and at this time, you may feel it is some kind of duty for you to help someone understand something. At the same time, you need your fix of adventure and spontaneity this week. That may be harder to come by, but I think you’ll find something to scratch your antsy itch.
CAPRICORN - This week may feel…awkward. Imagine that you’re going shopping, maybe with the peeps from Queer Eye. Tan picks out an outfit for you that feels way too sexy or loud or colorful and you feel very resistant to it. What is the worst that happens, really? You go out to dinner and you’re noticed? You are always noticed, you just aren’t always seeking it out. Live a little, play a little, step out of your spreadsheet comfort zone this week and sex it up, if for no one else but yourself.
AQUARIUS - This week feels so…you. As it should, being your season and all. Happy Birthday, by the way! There’s a cool detachment and air of mystery and genius and “je ne sais quoi” about you…more than usual; and others are drawn to it. You may not understand this magnetism, and it may feel like some people are just “too close” to you, in your space, or making you feel feely things, and Spock doesn’t really do feely things. Your home is your castle and your retreat. Just know that you are pretty fucking fabulous and others see it.
PISCES - You may feel like there is a heaviness and a duty or burden for you to love, this week. Love feels hard to grasp at times for you right now. Work on your personal boundaries and feeling just your own ‘stuff’ will really help. You are too porous at the moment. Writing down anything around this type of thing could lead to a good breakthrough. Be aware of substance and addiction issues if you’re triggered this week (not just because you’re Pisces, but because your 12th house is active right now). A sibling, cousin, or close neighbor friend may provide the escape you need from your own depths.
https://www.llewellyn.com/journal/article/1303
https://planetaryclarity.wordpress.com/2018/11/24/eros-in-gemini-opposite-psyche-mirrors-2018/
This is an area of Shadow Work that I specialize in. so if you have found yourself in a self defeating pattern of unworkable, unhaveable, passionate but terribly difficult relationships, I can help you break that cycle. I have been there! It was torture and if you can gain some understanding of your patterns, you mind will probably be blown. My shadow work sessions are not heavy and scary, because…it's me. I keep it light and conversational and exploratory. Hit me up if you are interested. This is an area I feel very passionately about.