Re-Feminist History - badass women in history

Monday, March 11, 2024

Re-Feminist History - this blog's new purpose


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Hi!

So as I announced in my previous post, this blog will now be used to highlight the women we talk about on the podcast, formerly named "Bitchstory", now called "Re-feminist History". Doo-do-dooooo!




First up, Isabella Goodwin, the NYPD's first female detective. And what a badass she was!

Isabella Loghry was born in Greenwich Village, Manhattan in 1865. Around 1885, aged 19, she married John W. Goodwin, a police officer. The couple had six children, of which four survived. Goodwin was widowed in 1896, when she was 30 years old. Obviously this put her and her children in a precarious position and she needed to find work.

The New York City police department had only just started hiring women as “police matrons" to look after female and child prisoners ...so basically, legal babysitting. Goodwin applied and was hired. It was a low paid position, making only $1000/year, which amounts to about 30K a year in today's money. She had ONE DAY OFF A MONTH! She served in this position for 15 years.

The police commissioner, as history would have it, was Theodore Roosevelt, and he expanded that role to include dealing with female crime victims, sex-crime cases and matters involving children and babies. But women were still not considered officers. 

Goodwin had been recognized for her skills going undercover, posing as a hapless society lady to expose various swindlers. So when the department was stumped in 1912, they utilized her skills again. 

There was a case involving a midday robbery where "taxi bandits" beat up two clerks and stole $25,000 in downtown Manhattan. Even with 60 detectives assigned to the case, no one could solve the robbery. So they asked Goodwin to go undercover.

The best part of the story, apart from her badassness, is the robber's name: Eddie "The Boob" Kinsman.

So she posed as a maid at a seedy boardinghouse that Eddie frequented to see his girl, "Swede Annie".

Lisa and I are flummoxed as to how this has not been made into a movie, because these names alone scream for it...but anyway...

Goodwin snooped and eavesdropped and buddied up to other bad guys' girlfriends until she had enough evidence to nab "The Boob". "Goodwin knew she had the goods on the crew when she finally heard Swede Annie say, 'Eddie the Boob turned the trick, alright.'"

(Hello!?! Movie people!! )

As a result of her success in cracking a case that 60 (male) detectives could not, she was appointed as New York's first female detective and given the rank of 1st grade lieutenant. Her salary was raised from $1000 to $2,250/year. 

“There is many a 6-foot detective with a gun on his hip who does less valuable work for his $3,300 a year than Mrs. Goodwin, a slight, quick moving little woman whose brain more than keeps pace with her body,” The New York Herald wrote in 1921. (I bet all the male cops loved that article!)

In the 1920's she helped oversee the newly created Women’s Bureau, and helped with cases involving prostitutes, runaways, truants and victims of domestic violence. She was way ahead of her time, because these types of women were abandoned by most of society. She retired in 1925.

In 1921 she married a man 30 years younger than herself (go girl!) and they were together until she died in 1943. Her tombstone bears his last name, although it lists her birth year as 1871 instead of 1865 (which census records validate). Maybe she lied to him about her age. heehee.  I am tickled by this idea. 

Next week I'll tell you about a woman who didn't arrest mobsters but instead MADE monsters (damn I'm good haha) but was robbed, over and over, of credit. (Any woman who has been in corporate America understands that!)



Sources for today's story are: 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Isabella_Goodwin

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/13/obituaries/isabella-goodwin-overlooked.html











The State of the BitchUnion

Dear Readers and Astro Nerds,

Bless me readers for I have sinned,  it has been exactly 4 weeks since my last confession/astro obsession.  

I'm sorry I haven't posted here.  So, wha' ha' happn'd was...

During the New Moon in Aquarius, I did some intense manifesting work around my path forward and what I am supposed to be doing.  I have been feeling burned out and over-stretched for a long time.  I had 3 podcasts and BitchScopes Astrology. The latter was a labor of love, but it was a labor.  Scopes were so much work and so much time.  I don't normally whine about that kind of stuff.  So for awhile I thought, maybe I'll feel better if this wasn't all "free", so I monetized the actual BitchScopes over on Patreon.  That eased the imbalance a little.  But a few days after the New Moon work I did,  I woke up and was struck with "I'm quitting everything!".  

BitchScopes is my baby. It is my brainchild, and my passion project.  The Bitch brand I have worked so hard to build is so meaningful to me.  I feel so passionate about empowering women (humans really. Because if men were more confident they would make the world better too).  I feel that reclaiming the word "bitch" is important and powerful.  However...

I am still butting up against the Patriarchal rules of engagement.  It is impossible to market the Scopes and the podcasts because the word Bitch is disallowed from all advertising.  Even if I put an * in the word, Google calls it a work around and straight up cancelled my Google Ads account.  We are so wrapped up in proper language that somehow it is still, ironically, oppressive! Women are on track to have more and more of their rights stripped, and we also can't use a word that has been used against us.  What the fuck is that all about?! 

The podcast game is a whole other rant that I shan't dive into today. 

So I said fine. Fuck it. If the Universe doesn't want me to do this work, then I quit.  

It is hard for me to let go of BitchScopes. But it was also a huge relief.  My health has been shit since 2020 when I got Covid and then Shingles and then Fibromyalgia/Chronic Fatigue/Long Covid, and it's all made worse by hormonal imbalances (workin on that).  It literally hurts me to walk. it hurts to get out of bed. It hurts to stand in my kitchen. It hurts to sit at my desk.  Everything hurts all the time.  I NEVER talk about my health issues, but this was another nudge from the Universe.  Please don't email me with recommendations.  I have a PhD in Google and trust me, I know a lot of shit.  Fibro is a real cunt (she's not a bitch, because bitches are badass). There is so little known about it and so little helps it. I bristle at recommendations so please don't. 

So that's where I've been for the last 4 weeks. I forgot to post here.  I had posted on social media and Patreon, but I forgot about here. But here I am - alive and surly as ever!

Last week I decided I want to keep the Bitchstory podcast, because it is also important, fun, educational, and not a huge work load. So Lisa and I just recorded a new episode and it is up now where ever you get your podcasts. 

I know a lot of my readers don't do podcasts, and I have to say, you're missing out.  They are fun and they feel more connected than words on a screen.  I can't speak for all of podcast-dom, but ours is entertaining.  You can listen while you drive, while you work, while you exercise.  If you don't know where to start, here's a couple starter hints.  

If you have an Apple iPhone, there's a podcast app that looks like this: 

Otherwise, you can listen on Spotify.  Accounts are free.  Here's the link to our show.  

You can also listen directly at our host site (no apps or subscriptions required: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/bitchstory

We also were struck with an inspiration to change the name of that show from "Bitchstory" to "Re-feminist History", (which is a play on "revisionist history").  We hope this will enable us to advertise and market like normal podcasters who don't have devil language in their title. *eyeroll*. 

This blog space will be used to write about the women we talk about on that podcast. So if you really like reading and are a subscriber here, you'll still get your fix of sass mixed with a shot of women that should be in the history books but aren't.  I hope you enjoy.  

Feel free to email me at: "Kelly@thebitchwhisperer.me" - I haven't even begun to decide what to do with all the domain names I own with the word "bitch" in them, so that's not changing yet. Or maybe ever. 

"She whispered to the Bitches to Bitch, and the Bitches did Bitch"




Sunday, February 11, 2024

Bitchstrology for Valentine's Week - To Thine Own Self Be True - love notes from the Dark Divine Feminine

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Greetings goddesses and Bitches…boddesses? Gitches? Whatever. So listen. This week is a bit of a mixed bag, but the bag is a little more intense than usual. Things feel a bit unstable on an emotional level.

For starters, Mars, Venus and the Sun all change signs this week. Valentine’s Day is in the middle of the week, and no matter if you think it’s great or stupid, it is in our collective consciousness and there are feelings and expectations associated with it. V-day, no matter how we try to spin it, often results in disappointment. Then Pluto is very active this week, intensifying things in Aquarius, the sign of humanity.

So from the goddesses we have the following aspects:  Circe square Kali, Isis sextile Mercury, Niobe
conjunct Nemesis, Freia conjunct Venus, Sun opposite Artemis, Moon conjunct Pandora, Mercury conjunct Chariklo, Mercury quincunx Lilith, and Mercury square Kali. Just from those aspects I can tell you that this week will be a bit gossipy and pissy and have some negativity afoot. There will be confrontations and conflicts, a desire for revenge for some of us. Mercury dances through several goddess spaces, so we will lean into the intellectual side. We might try to rationalize things, or talk ourselves out of being who we truly are ( just gonna go out on a limb and say it will likely be due to some patriarchal bullshit.) The adversity will motivate us to succeed, possibly out of spite but that is the best kind of revenge! There is nothing more dark goddess than “revenge is the best success”! Kali is the possibly the strongest goddess this week, and she can create some destruction. Be aware of self sabotage, but also don’t be afraid to fuck some shit up (within reason!) to get what you need.

From the traditional planets we have a slightly softer outlook, but there is still an intensity and real drive for power. Venus (a goddess, but also a traditional planet. The only feminine planet other than the moon!) and Mars both move into Aquarius. They both conjunct Pluto and then next week they conjunct each other exactly (which is more like what we want from Valentine's Day). Mars in Aquarius is unique, revolutionary, and seeks independence and progress. Venus in Aquarius is forward thinking and tolerant. Both planets individually conjunct Pluto, which brings a lust for power and for connection. These 2 personal planets in the sign of eccentric Aquarius can shift our values and bring a desire for more original experiences, especially as it relates to human interactions. More on that next week.

The Sun enters Pisces, signaling a period of sensitivity and compassion, and boy does the world need it right now!

Mercury is very active again week, again. He square uranus, sextiles the north Node and chiron, all indicating a strong intellectual vibe to this week.

No matter how you slice it, Pluto’s interactions with Mars and Venus in Aquarius heavily colors the week. The dark goddesses (aka the Bitches) indicate it might feel a lot more personal to us and we might feel righteously pissed off. Whereas the traditional planets indicate a lot of rationalizing and mental gymnastics. It is vitally important that we be true to ourselves this week (and always!), speak our truths, and not be deterred on our path forward. Self compassion is just as important as self advocacy and autonomy, however, so remember to not be too hard on yourself, and not to cut off your nose to spite your face.

A little about Kali, since I’m trying to teach a little each week about the goddesses. She is very
complex and it has taken me years to really connect with her energy. She is ruthless but also benevolent. She works to burn away our more egotistic desires and our “demons”. These are not literal demons, but the pain and suffering we carry around. She has helped me tremendously in facing painful past situations and helping me to move through the feelings around certain events. She is slow to reveal herself to you, but she works quickly. I have made more progress through pain with Kali than any other goddess energy. If you want real changes in your life, I highly recommend trying to connect with her. But you should try to understand her in small bites. Just start with a hello and see what she reveals. Then next time light a candle and sit with her for a few minutes. She is intense. She holds the space for Saturn in my Bitchstrology. Like Saturn she is a taskmaster, but she works more on a spiritual level. Like Saturn, there are rewards for your hard work. I think you will feel more supported with her than you do with Saturn. Her symbology is …frightening. But trust me…get to know what it all means. Because like all strong women, she is often misunderstood and maligned. You can read more of her story here:   https://goddessgift.com/goddesses/kali/

Since this week is Valentine’s, let me leave you with a thought about self love and self acceptance: “Kali is often misunderstood as merely a goddess of destruction, but in truth, she represents a much deeper concept: the liberation that comes through embracing every aspect of ourselves.” https://medium.com/@truenorthawakening/unleashing-the-fierce-divine-feminine-embracing-kalis-liberating-path-to-your-authentic-self-2aad02ff7a61